HomeArticlesLGBTQ+ Advice: Bigot Grandma, Getting Tested, First Pride | Chosen Family | Part 4 LGBTQ+ Advice: Bigot Grandma, Getting Tested, First Pride | Chosen Family | Part 4 By Juan Cameron November 22, 2019 Articles, Blog 100 Comments Tags:answer, captioned, cc, coming out, education, Funny, gay, homophobic, lgbt, lgbt education, LGBTQ, lol, qa, question, safe space, slur, Teacher, the velvet rage, tyler oakley, tyleroakley, upload, vlog, vlogger, vlogging, youtuber Related Posts How to Make an App for Beginners (2019) – Lesson 1 Simple Bullet Journal Setup 2018 Web accessibility in civil society: Persons with disabilities in today’s educational environments About Author admin 100 Comments Katie Galvin June 28, 2017 So I'm straight and I don't understand what some of the LGBTQ+ things are like:-pan sexual-asexualCould you explain them a bit? Reply Tmaggzz K June 28, 2017 Does Tyler's voice remind anyone else of Kevin from welcome to night vale? Reply Ana Lucia June 28, 2017 i just came out to my two best friends and my cousin like less than a week ago and i am so happy. i am sad because i feel like i should be doing something and i want to. but i live in a latin very conservative country and go to a catholic school. i know i can turn to the internet but i dont know where to start. and its not like i can meet people in real life since my mom doesnt let me go out with people she doesnt know, im 16, and i only know one gay guy thats 2 years older than me. btw i am a girl i identify as lesbian at the moment pronouns she and her Reply Yellow_ Sunflower June 28, 2017 did any one else do the day of silence? Reply Rylan Lee June 28, 2017 i'm going to my first pride after i turn 18 and i might cry Reply Meagen Denton June 28, 2017 I have come out as a toaster and my mom is sending me to vista it's not fair :(( Reply Rach T June 29, 2017 "Finding the comfort in that friendship" one of the big reasons I have not come out to a lot of people.. my religion says it's wrong and I am scared of what family will do. Thanks for making this video though. It was helpful 🙂 Reply Stella Davis June 30, 2017 Tyler Oakley I love your laugh so much!! You are so positive and you always make me laugh and brighten up my day and inspire me. I can't thank you enough for that honestly. Thank you and love you!! Reply L 2234 June 30, 2017 "STRAIGHT PEOPLE "-Tyler. I laughed so so hard . Reply Rose M June 30, 2017 о боже,ты прекрасен! Reply Sophia Knue June 30, 2017 hi tyler! I just wanted to say that i am an ally to the lgbtq+ community, and I just wanted to say thank you for being so inspiring and helpful! You are my role model and you always find a way to make me smile when times are hard. thank you so much for being awesome and inspiring and this series is really helping me! I recommended his to my bisexual friend and she will start watching it soon; she has seen so many good things about it on tumblr and now i am bothering her with it! So again, thank you so much for being an inspiration to all!!!!! Reply themadpsychologist June 30, 2017 Another thing for advice for educators: something that meant the WORLD to me and others I know was 2 of my professors from last semester took up note cards where you can tell them your preferred name and pronouns. As someone who uses they/them gender neutral pronouns and comes from a hostile and not-accepting family environment, it brought tears to my eyes when I went to uni and got that validation and opportunity to be who I am in the classroom. That's just something from my personal experience to consider; Tyler you are an inspiration to me and helped me accept who I am so thank you! <3 Reply evie jo June 30, 2017 i was out as a lesbian to my ENTIRE school (teachers too) for 2 years, but right after i graduated eighth grade i realized shit fam i’m not gay, i’m bi. and that’s okay. sexuality can be HELLA fluid, that’s okay!! i am also somewhere on the asexual spectrum but hinestly i have no idea where on that thing Reply rk kwc July 1, 2017 Dear Schools: You know what's just as important as the Colored Rights and Women's Rights and Rights for everyone no matter who they are or what they do like you tell us to be? LGBT rights. Because that's really helpful. Especially in high school and middle school. Thanks, LGBTQ+ parents and students everywhere who would really like some help, especially students who don't know who they are yet Reply Jude Perring July 2, 2017 Loool fuck this gay ass Bitch Reply Sahand 17 July 2, 2017 You gay boy Reply Mary Grace July 3, 2017 yoooo hit me up if you're going to Greensboro pride in September Reply Phanic! At My Chemical Potter July 3, 2017 How do you answer the question, 'What made you LGBTQ+?' Reply jada c July 3, 2017 1:08 THATS MY BEST FRIEND Reply Kacy George July 4, 2017 Milk was really good.Normal Heart exceeded reality. Reply Kacy George July 4, 2017 Next year will be my first Pride. I'll be wearing… a lot Reply Kacy George July 4, 2017 Queer narratives are so essential , Oscar Wilde was my hero in HS. Reply Kacy George July 4, 2017 I mean, a hot guy is a hot guy. Gay or str8 Reply Amelia Pimentel July 4, 2017 I'm bisexuel and all my friends think I want to date them🙄regardless if they are a girl or boy Reply Charlotte Adase July 6, 2017 please read this, I know it is long but it is important to me 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈i just started a new school and my favorite thing is my health teacher. she made it very clear our first class that this school was a safe space and insulting people for being in the community or using lgbtq+ as an insult is not exeptible. she is really nice and she was right in saying it was safe and I saw that later this year when a kid in my homeroom called another kid gay in a mean way and my whole homeroom turned on him. through the year we talked about 6th grade stuff witch got pretty uncomfortable especially as we neared the end of the year starting with sex ed. in our last class we were talking about love and she put pictures on the board of straight, gay, and lesbian couples. she then ended the pictures with a heart outline made of the different gender symbols that represent lgbtq+. she talked about how the gender of who you love doesn't matter and explained most of the symbols. sadly in the time crunch she forgot to explain bi so I stayed after class and told her I was bi and was a little disappointed that it wasn't mentioned. she was upset that she forgot and apologized. I forgave her and said how much I appreciate this lesson because I'm bi and my brother is pan as well as my cousin is questioning and her brother is gay. I'm glad schools are teaching about this and supporting it and I'm glad that me and all other community members have so many role models also in the community weather it be people like you or people in their personal life. I'm happy for that but I am a bit sad that because there is a youtuber who I'm a fan of who made an app and I thought oh cool I'll check it out. it turned out to be a support group thing and it helped me recognize who I was and I felt like everyone on it was my family. no matter what I posted I got support and positivity. even when I had a terrible day at school with dramma and I was almost in tears when I got home I would go on there and feel loved feel excepted feel like I truly belonged. one day I saw some comments asking what happened to the app and even a video recognizing it. I went and cheaked and sure enough the app had been taken off the app store and no longer worked. I was really upset but none of my friends really understood. even though it doesn't work I still have it where I can see it as a reminder of the acceptance I once had and that there are people out there just like me and I will never forget that 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈 Reply oaksong July 7, 2017 The first time I told anyone I was gay was during an acid trip in 1966 to a straight friend. Then I came out to the psychiatrist my parents wanted me to go to. I don't know if she charged them for the 10 seconds I stuck my head in the door and said, "I'm gay. It doesn't matter. We don't need to do this. Bye." Reply Ashleigh Cranford July 7, 2017 Yesterday I was watching some Doctor Who (nerd) on the BBC America channel. There was a commercial for shows with three gay couples and two straight. It ended in LOVE across the screen and spoken by the narrator. I was really thrown by it and couldn't imagine that much representation on one thirty second commercial in the U.S. without there being national uproar. (Remember what happened with the Campbell's commercial, the rainbow Oreo one, and Target bathrooms?). So I would like to hear from you guys how your home countries approach LGBT representation and how people speak about it in regular conversation. Reply Rosana Klobčar Javornik July 9, 2017 tyler you are my savior Reply RhettandLinkLover 1499 July 11, 2017 I don't know if I'm a lesbian or I'm not Reply Trey Switzer July 14, 2017 What does being tested mean? Reply Serena Dochs July 15, 2017 I've been wanting to go to pride for a little while now but I'm nervous because I am ace and I've heard that pride is not the most accepting place for the ace community, not to mention a lot of it is hyper-sexualized. Anybody have any tips? Reply abby alexandrite July 15, 2017 Posted on my birthday, I feel blessed Reply Lindsey Hornung July 15, 2017 Am I the only one who's heart sunk when he mentioned the pink triangle which root from World War II homophobia Reply Hailey Penney July 18, 2017 At my school, the only time you hear about the LGBTQ+ community is when rumors are spread and teachers talk about how they are uncomfortable around people who are gay.I often tend to freak out when people use homophobic slurs because my mind automatically goes to the worst. It's very scary and I want to change that about my school.I want people to know that not everyone is like that.You inspire me everyday to have pride and be open.Thank you Tyler.😁 Reply jellyfishboyy July 18, 2017 My first tattoo will just bye Tyler's face saying, "Ugh, straight people." and rolling his eyes I fucking promise you Reply Jro Dolly July 20, 2017 OMG IAM THE 12367TH PERSON TO COMMENT!!!!! Reply Faith Cantrell July 21, 2017 I'm bi and my family isn't very excepting as I thought and kids at school decide to bully me for it anyone have any friendly advice Reply Katie Payne July 23, 2017 Anyone out there who's parents don't support them, I'm your new mother, now which one of you kids wants a snack Reply Pxstel.Chxshire July 25, 2017 #LGBT Reply sparklefarttss July 25, 2017 What does he mean by tested? Reply Savannah Williams July 25, 2017 How would someone deal with being LGBT at a homophobic school where you will be kicked out if they know you're lgbt Reply Jane Peters July 26, 2017 Beautiful video its the first video of you that i watched and i loved it Reply Chrissy Robbins July 27, 2017 Omg Tyler your laugh is amazing and is so contagious I love you!!! Reply hoi its emily July 28, 2017 My middle school band teacher had little stickers to put on doors that had a rainbow triangle and had the words "SAFE SPACE" shooting off the top and whenever I saw that on a different teachers door felt so nice. Especially if I heard bigoted banter around the school, just that little sticker made me feel proud. Reply lauren green July 29, 2017 will someone explain to me what being tested is? Reply Jaimie Ritchie August 1, 2017 What do rainbows 🌈 have to do with LGBTQ+ stuff? I don't get it. Reply Faith Cantrell August 1, 2017 Amy thank you Reply Cynthia Howard August 2, 2017 I'm reading a book rn called "Queer, There, And Everywhere" and it's amazing 100% recommend Reply xnfazed August 4, 2017 My school puts up the lgbtq+ flag for one day of the year and doesn't say a word about it Reply Nicole R August 7, 2017 3:32 I am so glad that there are teachers like this :') I am fortunate to have an amazing teacher who I can talk to – he's basically the supportive uncle for all his queer art students. We need more teachers like these! Reply Nicole R August 7, 2017 I texted my mum and told her that I'm bisexual, and she was totally cool with it. she said that I could talk to her if I want, but otherwise to just give my guitar a thrash before doing my homework 🙂 Reply Nicole R August 7, 2017 "ugh GrAnDmA" I laughed at that😂 Reply pikarino August 9, 2017 Schools don't talk about this stuff at all and it makes me mad because there is an entire culture that's hidden from us in order to 'stop people from being influenced into being gay' or it's just not deemed as appropriate but this is the time when we question and we need to know that there are others that we're not alone I had to learn about all of his on the internet for goodness sake this topic should be covered in schools Reply Cate W-W August 11, 2017 I just think it's amazing that Tyler uses his fame to do all this incredible stuff to help the LGBTQ+ community and that his videos are funny but also really insightful and teach everyone a lot Reply Thea H September 3, 2017 ADVICE PLEASE! Where is a good place to get education on non-binary genders and the characteristics of them etc.? I'm feeling really awkward and unhappy in my body and I go to an all girls school so I was just looking for a way to learn more. 🙂 Reply Adrian Vera September 4, 2017 And the subtitles in Spanish? Reply Sophia Siniscalco September 4, 2017 How do you start a GSA at school? I've been wanting to for awhile but don't know how. Reply Sean September 7, 2017 It's official I want to move to LA, lol, AZ LGBT+ community is so divided among itself that there is no help, no centers, no safe place. It's very clique-y I just wish we could be like the other states and come together for once instead of people always judging each other. Like we don't get that enough already. Reply Michaella Greenvile September 10, 2017 I am a straight ally especially because my best friend is trans. So I will be here for everyone 😆 and I'm not afraid to admit that I support the LGBTQ+ community. He has taught me so much I need to show him this video!!!! Reply Arianna Parker September 12, 2017 I was scared to come out to mom about being pansexual only to find out the my uncle Jonathan is gay. Reply Mia's Stuff September 13, 2017 Hi Tyler. I don't know if you are reading this, but if you are, I need help. I am pan and gender fluid Hispanic girl in a SUPER religious and old fashioned family. Do you have any advice on how to come out? Reply Kendall September 20, 2017 I'm bisexual and I'm scared of coming out to my family especially my dad cuz he is kind of homophobic what do I do Reply Sian Troote September 21, 2017 So so true what you have said here about one of the best things about being LGBTQ+ being our community!! I feel so lucky to feel apart of our community and am so grateful. It means everything Reply Erin Dary September 28, 2017 My school has a GSA and I just joined at last week because last the signup and I'm really excited for our first meet Reply seefo seefo October 19, 2017 Shit on you Reply Bangmom's stay October 19, 2017 I'm pansexual but my dad and his side of the fam don't know… If they knew they wouldn't even look at me… I fell in love with my best friend (cliché, I know) and she's also pansexual… But the problem is she was taken away by the state and put in foster care and I'm not sure if I'll ever see her again and I miss her so fucking much… I was actually planning on telling her I was in love with her before she got taken away… I have no fucking clue of what I should do… Reply Erin Connor October 22, 2017 "Hi we don't use that kind of language" I'm fully deceased 😂😂😂😭😂😭 Reply Celishia Abigail October 23, 2017 I LOVE FAMLEY!!!!!! Reply ILoveRara :3 October 25, 2017 my chosen family is you <3 Reply Timmy Broad November 1, 2017 Hiii, Tyler. I really like your videos and love you❤, tysm for your advises, and i can't help telling everybody that you're sooo cool!! Hope, you see it, and you'll reply me💕 Reply Jake Davies December 10, 2017 Thank you tyler Reply A Grammar Nazi December 18, 2017 I'm straight but gay people are amazing!! I love Tyler, he is so inspiring! ❤❤❤❤🌈🌈🌈 Reply James Cameron December 21, 2017 Look why do we have to care if your gay or not… Reply Daika Ø.ø January 1, 2018 Tyler , This is a great video but why are you sitting in front of your couch? 😅🤔 Reply emo with an ego January 7, 2018 4:18 dang Tyler would be a good rapper! Reply Ian Pierce January 14, 2018 I absolutely loved the info from this video ! And you are one of my favorite YouTubers. I'm newly bi sexual, and watching your videos along with a few other you tubers, had the made the experience of telling people, a whole lot easier. So thank you for being so inspiring. Reply Saddvik Levi January 16, 2018 >homophobic slurs>using queergive me a breaaaakkkkk, tylerplease p l e a s e Reply robin tucker January 20, 2018 i want to pride with my friends… how do i tell my parents i want to go to pride? i need help love you tyler Reply Morgan Smith January 24, 2018 I love how honest the teacher was with not knowing how to be how to go about creating a safe space in his class and to be supportive and that he is actively reaching for education and means to be supportive Reply Dog Flying a Kite February 8, 2018 Lmao, a gay-straight alliance? In a Catholic highschool?? In south Alabama??? I'm not saying it's impossible, but it's pretty close. Reply tyler rose February 18, 2018 hello can you guys pls go watch my roblox movie Reply Giving Up February 20, 2018 We didn't have any education on LGBTQ+ apart from our teacher touching upon it for a few seconds and that was to tell us what it stands for!!😂😭😂❤️❤️❤️ Reply Maura DO'B February 25, 2018 Yea, all the gay stuff we learn is in my school's Gay-Straight Alliance Reply Maura DO'B February 25, 2018 I feel like all schools should have some place like a Gay-Straight Alliance, where students can learn about the LGBTQ+ community but not be forced to choose some label and can just be. I also feel this is important for all schools and children of all ages because in my early elementary days I thought "gay" was bad. But, that was because that was the only time I ever heard the word when referring to someone or something negatively. That was a lot… sorry! Reply Courtney Braun March 8, 2018 3:15 ooh body glitter Reply motherwar :3 June 1, 2018 5:31 OMFG THANK YOU, FINALLY SOMEONE Reply Jill - June 3, 2018 This is inspiring me so much to go to pride this year but I don't know if I should since I only recently found out I was part of the community and my parents don't know that I am part of it yet. 😅 Reply Phoebe Schultz June 4, 2018 Me: sees the bisexual cousins My ace self and my ace cousin: look at each other Reply Kat June 9, 2018 I just figured out I'm bisexual and I told a few people but my grandma and grandpa we have I talked about sexualitys before I figured out that I'm bi and they told me that there fine with people that are gay or lesbian but bi people are just acting and looking for attention and I want to tell them but I scared of their reaction and I haven't told my dad because I know he will tell them Reply Matthew Harmon June 11, 2018 I may be an idiot but what does "tested" mean? Reply Elisa VG June 12, 2018 Thoughts on asexuality? Reply Chris Craig June 21, 2018 Straight people, am I right? Like what's their deal? (DISCLAIMER: this was a joke. I love everyone for who they are. I repeat THIS WAS A JOKE Reply 21 p!atd June 24, 2018 “UGH GRANDMA” 😂 Reply Reagan Bramlish July 12, 2018 "Extra battery for my phone" honey is your phone from the Stone Age what 😂 Reply Amy Whittaker July 19, 2018 5:35 BEST MOMENT EVER😂😂😍 Reply default w October 7, 2018 OMG that's the same thing with girls. They think I try to date them Reply Luciana Marino November 26, 2018 Haha. My best friend knows I'm a lesbian but he constantly makes jokes about me for example sucking his ****. And sometimes when he talks about stuff with his gf I think it's strange but I don't have other gay friends. Reply Dan The Trashcan January 15, 2019 my literature teacher got us to read brokeback mountain and do a project on it Reply Robert Phelps June 4, 2019 It is never a good idea or smart to "Come Out" as being queer When you inform people you are queer you are also informing them you are abomination to God and man You can hardly expect normal, sane people to receive that kind of news with open arms and love for you Of course some will reject you and will want to stay away from you Reply MC L September 19, 2019 I'm scared, although some places in the southernmost states are accepting, my school is filled with kids (big, small, can beat me, or can't) that use slurs regularly, has no lgbtq+ lessons or help center, and only a few parents who help at the school are accepting, it at least respectful about everyone's sexuality if they choose to share it. I also kind of want to come out to my friend group, but some of them make me really uncomfortable. 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